What is it about a marriage that makes it so desirous for singles? What makes the relationship between a man and a woman so beautifully intriguing to those who are 'alone'?
Of course, the old adage "it's not a bed of roses" is, sadly, true. Humans are not perfect. In many cases, couples who are married are miserable; miserable with life, themselves, and each other.
Just the other day, I was at the store and noticed a couple who appeared to be in their fifties. Each had their own shopping cart, even though they were obviously shopping together. They must have been shopping for a lot of stuff! During my own shopping, I came upon them and observed how the wife was constantly calling to her husband over her shoulder, "Please go get _______." And as he was looking at a product, she demanded, "What are you doing, now? I need _________." If I hadn't seen who she was talking to, I would have thought she was talking to a rebellious teenage son. Her tone was irritated, impatient and stern.
It made me think. What had happened in their marriage that caused the wife to seemingly lose all respect for her man? Had they once upon a time been happy and in love? It saddened me to think that maybe once they had been.
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Although we have only been married for three years, it is sometimes hard to remember our courting days. Life just happens and seems to get in the way. It makes me sad when the memories get a little blurred from every day life. But I want to always remember what it was like the moment I fell in love. I want to remember what it was like when my heart skipped a beat because I heard my phone alert me to his text. Or the first time he came to see me. And we held hands.
He's working 60+ hours a week these days, and I'm busy keeping house, playing with the baby, cooking or going to church. Life is going to happen. But that's when we take time for each other. Instead of getting upset about it, we do something about it. We close the laptop, set aside the phones and curl up together on the couch (that is, before our 2 year old insists on being in the middle of it!) -- just chatting about this and that. It can be something as little as what he had for lunch that day, or what I did differently to clean the floors. At least we are together, talking.
And when we can't be together (such as when he is working so long), we do what we did when we were courting 1,100 miles apart: we text. :-) More often than not, though, he is so busy he cannot text at all, so I send him texts throughout the day letting him know that I'm thinking of him -- because I am. (And when he gets the chance, he calls me throughout the day. :-) )
I am not saying that we have it all figured out, because we don't. We still have horrible arguments on occasion and hurt each other deeply. But we don't stop talking to one another. We pray that God would forgive us and that we would seek to bless and serve the other.
My husband is my greatest friend. He's the BFF I never had. I don't want that status to ever change, and neither does he. :-) We don't want to become the stagnant couple who just 'go through the motions' but in their heart of hearts they are miserable and afraid.
We want to be so in love that every time we are away from each other, we miss each other. I don't mean just casually. I mean, like, crazy miss each other.
We want to shine to the world with love for each other, and most importantly, love for our Lord and King.
"Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."
Matthew 19:6
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."
Matthew 19:6
